Would She Rather? 40 Hen Party Questions and Rules
Would She Rather is a hen party game in which guests predict which of two options the bride would choose. The bride records her choices, players make their guesses and each matching answer earns one point.
The important detail is her preference. Guests are not voting for their own favourite or trying to pick the answer most people would choose.
Use the 40 questions below to make a round that fits the bride. There is a suggested 12-question selection, a copyable answer sheet and a simple way to deal with a question she does not want to answer.
What you need and how long to allow
You need the same question list for every player, a pen each and the bride's private answer key. One answer sheet per team works too. For a version without printing, read the questions aloud while guests write numbered A or B answers on plain paper.
Try 12 questions for a short round. Allow roughly 10–15 minutes for guessing and revealing as a starting plan, with more time if the answers spark stories. Select a comfortable place where everyone can hear the host.
How to play Would She Rather
- Choose the questions and ask the bride to approve them privately. You can replace any pair that does not suit her.
- Ask her to choose A or B for each question before players see her answers. Keep that key for scoring.
- Give everyone the same list. Explain that they are predicting the bride's choice, not answering for themselves.
- Let guests mark their guesses individually or in agreed teams. No looking at the bride's key.
- Read each pair aloud and reveal her recorded choice. Give one point for each match.
- Add the scores. Highest total wins; a shared win is fine if there is a tie.
If she likes both options, ask which she would pick today. If she prefers neither or wants to pass, replace the question before playing. If a question is withdrawn during the reveal, remove it from every player's possible total.
40 Would She Rather questions
These prompts are written for a light-hearted hen party or bridal shower. Each numbered pair has an A choice followed by a B choice. Ask the bride which ones sound like her before putting them on the guest sheet.
Everyday choices
- Spend an unexpected free hour in A: a bookshop or B: a plant shop?
- Have A: breakfast brought to her or B: dinner cooked for her?
- Choose A: a playlist made by a friend or B: a book chosen by a friend?
- Get A: an extra hour in bed or B: an extra hour to get ready?
- Keep A: a handwritten birthday card or B: a birthday voice message?
- Start a new hobby with A: a pottery class or B: a photography walk?
- Spend a gift voucher on A: a useful kitchen gadget or B: a cosy throw?
- Have someone organise A: her wardrobe or B: her digital photographs?
Days out and weekends
- Book A: a mystery day out planned by a friend or B: a day she plans herself?
- Stay somewhere with A: a huge breakfast buffet or B: an excellent late checkout?
- Spend a rainy afternoon at A: a museum or B: an escape room?
- Take home A: a small souvenir or B: a notebook full of travel memories?
- Visit A: one familiar favourite place or B: somewhere she has never been?
- Plan a short break around A: a live performance or B: a food market?
- Have A: a packed picnic ready to go or B: a table booked for lunch?
- Wake up to A: a view of a harbour or B: a view of a woodland?
Food and entertaining
- Be served A: a starter and a main or B: a main and a dessert?
- Share A: several small dishes or B: one enormous pizza?
- Bring A: a homemade cake or B: a homemade savoury pie to a gathering?
- Choose A: a surprise tasting menu or B: her usual order done perfectly?
- Host A: a pancake breakfast or B: a build-your-own taco evening?
- Receive A: a hamper of favourite snacks or B: a voucher for a favourite restaurant?
- Eat the final portion of A: roast potatoes or B: chocolate pudding?
- Learn to make A: fresh pasta or B: filled chocolates?
Wedding and celebration choices
- Keep A: a collection of guests' messages or B: a collection of guests' drawings?
- Enter a celebration to A: a live musician or B: a favourite recorded song?
- Choose A: a cake with a surprise filling or B: a cake in a favourite familiar flavour?
- Have A: one big group photograph or B: lots of small-group photographs?
- Receive A: a carefully planned surprise or B: a plan she has helped choose?
- Make a table setting with A: fresh flowers or B: potted plants?
- End the party with A: a favourite singalong or B: a final round of stories?
- Display A: childhood photographs or B: photographs from recent adventures?
Playful dilemmas
- Have a useful robot that A: folds the washing or B: puts the shopping away?
- Be able to A: find every lost object instantly or B: remember every person's name?
- Receive A: a perfect weather forecast for every day out or B: a guaranteed parking space?
- Borrow A: a professional chef for an evening or B: a professional organiser for a day?
- Have a door that leads to A: a quiet reading room or B: a private dance studio?
- Instantly master A: wrapping awkwardly shaped presents or B: packing a tiny suitcase?
- Get A: a soundtrack that suits every moment or B: flattering lighting wherever she goes?
- Have A: a cupboard that always contains her favourite snack or B: a vase that always contains fresh flowers?
A quick 12-question round
Start with questions 1, 3, 6, 9, 12, 16, 18, 23, 26, 30, 33 and 39. Renumber your selected questions 1–12 on both the guest sheet and the bride's key.
That gives you a mixture of ordinary choices, days out, food, celebrations and playful dilemmas. A short, varied round is easier to host than asking the whole question bank in order.
For a family gathering, you can use these prompts without adding an adult-only round. If the bride would rather keep wedding details private, replace those questions with more everyday choices.
Copyable answer sheet
Player or team: ____________________
Circle A or B for the choice you think the bride has made. Fill in the reveal and points columns when the host reads the key.
| Question | Your guess | Bride's choice | Point |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | A / B | ___ | ___ |
| 2 | A / B | ___ | ___ |
| 3 | A / B | ___ | ___ |
| 4 | A / B | ___ | ___ |
| 5 | A / B | ___ | ___ |
| 6 | A / B | ___ | ___ |
| 7 | A / B | ___ | ___ |
| 8 | A / B | ___ | ___ |
| 9 | A / B | ___ | ___ |
| 10 | A / B | ___ | ___ |
| 11 | A / B | ___ | ___ |
| 12 | A / B | ___ | ___ |
Total: ______ / 12
A worked score and tie rule
Suppose a player matches the bride on ten questions and misses two. Their score is 10 out of 12. There are no deductions and no extra points for guessing what most guests preferred.
If the bride withdraws one question during the reveal, cross it out for everybody and score the remaining round out of 11. Do not award a point for a question with no agreed answer.
For a tie, keep one extra bride-approved pair off the main sheet. Tied players write A or B before you reveal her answer. If that still leaves several winners, share the result rather than asking increasingly awkward questions.
Adapt the game to your group
For guests who have only recently met the bride, use everyday choices that allow a reasonable guess. They do not need to know years of private history to join in.
For team play, mix people who know her from different parts of life. Use one sheet per team and one point per correct team answer, not one point for every person who agreed.
Keep participation optional and leave drinking out of the scoring. The bride can explain a choice, but she does not owe anyone a reason or have to defend it against what friends think she “really” prefers.
If you want a game based on facts rather than two-choice predictions, choose Who Knows the Bride Best from our hen party games guide. You may only need one bride-focused quiz in the running order; use the hen party planning checklist to leave room for food and conversation too.
Prefer ready-printed games
Our standard eight-game hen party bundle and Rose Gold eight-game bundle each include a Would She Rather game. Both have guest-pack choices for 10, 20, 30 or 40 people.
The 40 pairs in this guide are separate DIY ideas, not the question list printed in those packs. Choose a product by its stated contents and selected guest quantity, and follow its supplied instructions when playing.
Common questions
Is it Would You Rather or Would She Rather
In an ordinary Would You Rather game, each player chooses for themselves. In this version, everyone predicts the bride's choice. Make that distinction before handing out the sheets.
Does the partner need to send answers
No. Only the bride's choices form the key. You can play without involving her partner at all.
Can the bride reveal answers live instead
Yes, but collecting her choices beforehand gives the host a clear key and lets her screen the questions. Keep the recorded answer for scoring so guesses do not influence the result.
Do you need prizes
No. A shared round of applause is enough. If you want a small prize, agree how you will handle a joint win before the game begins.
